Girls' Bedroom Secrets

Foreplay

Do blokes usually skip past foreplay?

	I love having my breasts played with. It just feels nice. I love being tickled!... Cara

Cara: Actually, the bloke I’m seeing at the minute always puts the effort in with me. Before we have sex, I’m always treated to lots of foreplay, and then we have sex. I feel selfish now, but I don’t even think about it – it’s just a sort of routine. He always touches me.

Where do you like being touched most?
C: I like it when he plays with my boobs. That’s why I’d never get a boob job, because you could lose the sensitivity and all the feeling in your nipples. I’d be gutted. I love having my breasts played with. It just feels nice. I love being tickled!

What about when he goes down on you?
C: I do like that, I must say.
Alex: I’m quite lucky; my boyfriend actually really likes doing all the foreplay and stuff.

Do you think more girls should demand oral sex when they want it?
A: Of course! I mean, it’s always the bloke who’ll ask for it first, isn’t it?
C: Yeah, they’re always asking, ‘Will you go down on me?’
A: Or stuff like, ‘Will you kiss it?’
C: Especially if you’re in slightly kinky circumstances, like outdoors or in public.
C: I definitely think it’d be a good thing if the tables were turned.
A: Yeah – make them earn it!

It sounds like you both have good sex lives…
A: Well it’s usually me who starts it off. I don’t know where I get my sex drive from, but I could have sex for England! So I usually come on to him, but once I get him really horny, I can lie back and do nothing. I’ll let my hair down, we’ll have sex and it’ll be great!
C: Nice one!
A: That said, I can’t come just through sex – I can only really, really come if my boyfriend goes down on me beforehand.
C: I come just through sex, but I think it really makes a difference if you take time beforehand and get the girl started with some oral sex.
A: Unless it’s one of those occasions where you’re super-horny and it’s a ‘clothes off, have sex right this instant’ moment, blokes should always give a girl oral sex.
C: You should never really be trying to have sex; it should just happen after the build-up. You should be really in the mood.

How can blokes get the mood right?
C: I think you have to just lose your inhibitions; you have to enjoy it and go along with things. Don’t think about it too much, don’t worry about what you’re doing, how you look, how you’re doing it… you’ve just got to relax and go with the flow.
A: If you orgasm, that’s fine, and if you don’t, you don’t – you shouldn’t be thinking about that when someone is going down on you.

Have you ever faked an orgasm during oral?
C: I’ve never faked an orgasm, but I’ll happily have sex and let him come. That means he’ll make me come by going down on me later.
A: Yeah, so you can lie back during sex and look forward to him going down on you after.

Men shouldn’t simply have sex, come and roll over, then?
C: No way, I’d go mad!
A: I wouldn’t stand for that!
C: Can you even imagine? You’d just be lying there gagging for it!
A: I’d be in shock!
C: I’d be speechless…

So you like oral sex then?
C: Yes, I do quite like it. Actually, I love it!
A: I love it, too!