My wife claims I'm having a mid-life crisis just because I've traded in my old estate car for a sportier number. How can I tell if she's right, and am I about to turn into a typical 40-something male clich�
D Crozier, Barnet

Phillip Hodson, psychotherapist and counsellor, replies:
She's wrong because having a mid-life crisis is a lot more complicated than buying a sports car. I wonder what her real problem is? She may be having a mid-life crisis of her own and worries about you vrooming off with some top totty? Give her reassurance, jewelry and a romantic trip.

Two observations:

1. You chose a car without consulting her
2. You forgot to buy her a sportscar.